sexuality Archives · Joi Massat

Tales from the Ace Zone: Sex and Gender Musings

Okay, get this: did you know that gender, sex, sexuality, romance, and aesthetic attraction…that they…that they might, might…they might…you know, they….they might be related???

I honestly didn’t because I thought I was too weird and too far beyond these things. It took some really roundabout reflection to reach these roundabout conclusions.

Searching for Erotic Non-Erotica

In my mind, the typical exploration of sexual psychology in literary fiction is one of these:

A character meets someone at a bar, then has a one-night stand. The one-night stand represents their alienation and the thrill of something secret.
A character has a weird kink or paraphilia, one that’s probably criminal or sadistic in nature. It represents the depravity of humanity or the downfall of society. The story perhaps unintentionally suggests that anyone in real life with a weird kink or paraphilia is a depraved human emblematic of the downfall of society.

I’m so bored.

Prison School Said “No Sex Forever”

Sad but true: sometimes we can only embrace our LGBTQ+ identities through watching the straightest cis-est shit of all time.

The Downward Spiral of Self-Deprecation

So I’m going through life, and something innocuous hits me wrong. I don’t feel like being specific, so…let’s pretend it’s an umbrella. Sure. Maybe umbrellas have never bothered me a single moment in my life, until now, this day, when my subconscious mind makes a connection between umbrellas and my deepest fears. A truly unhelpful one.

I spot an umbrella on the ground and for some reason, just seeing it sends a pang through my nerves. A Downward Spiral of Self-Deprecation begins: